Trying to score a date with the older women: ( through a dating site. )
DO NOT!
- Don't start the conversation with a comment about her weight. Even if its meant as a compliment, as in " Losing weight?" and then proceed to tell her you think she's pretty.
- When she asks about whether or not she was pretty before losing weight, do not answer with " Is this a touchy subject? "
- If you have multiple questions, try to keep them all in one message. Sending a new message for each question is annoying.
- Don't play the " I'm probably too young for you, " card. Trying to garner sympathy will not get you what you want. You'll only be perceived as a child.
- Do not ask " Do you think we could go on a date sometime? " Just ask if they'd like to go on a date. Don't play in hypotheticals. Also, don't add the word " please, " at the end of that question. No begging.
- If she doesn't reply to your messages right away, especially after she has mentioned that she is BUSY right now, do not send 12 more messages asking " Where'd you go? " or some version of that.
DO!
- Read her profile.
- Do have something written in your profile.
- Using the word 'gal' in reference to her is a good idea. ( At least for this gal it is. )
- Do ask about the things she likes. Such as baking or roller derby.
- Do have some good photos of you that don't involve a beer in your hand or another person.
- Be confident and don't mention the age difference unless she does.
- Do have a job.
This is the short list. The long list is long.
I have been inundated by messages from guys who are quite a bit younger then me in the last few months. We're talking 8 - 11 years younger. ( I'm only 32! ). Apparently, I am at the age where I am considered an " older women " for that age category ( 21 - 25 ).
I'm not completely sure how I feel about that.
Part of me is intrigued by the idea but the other part of me is quite sure that I would have nothing in common with any of them. I mean, they don't remember watching the Transformers on television or dancing to the Smashing Pumpkins at a high school dance. What could we possibly even talk about?
I guess we could just not talk.... * wink wink *
DO NOT!
- Don't start the conversation with a comment about her weight. Even if its meant as a compliment, as in " Losing weight?" and then proceed to tell her you think she's pretty.
- When she asks about whether or not she was pretty before losing weight, do not answer with " Is this a touchy subject? "
- If you have multiple questions, try to keep them all in one message. Sending a new message for each question is annoying.
- Don't play the " I'm probably too young for you, " card. Trying to garner sympathy will not get you what you want. You'll only be perceived as a child.
- Do not ask " Do you think we could go on a date sometime? " Just ask if they'd like to go on a date. Don't play in hypotheticals. Also, don't add the word " please, " at the end of that question. No begging.
- If she doesn't reply to your messages right away, especially after she has mentioned that she is BUSY right now, do not send 12 more messages asking " Where'd you go? " or some version of that.
DO!
- Read her profile.
- Do have something written in your profile.
- Using the word 'gal' in reference to her is a good idea. ( At least for this gal it is. )
- Do ask about the things she likes. Such as baking or roller derby.
- Do have some good photos of you that don't involve a beer in your hand or another person.
- Be confident and don't mention the age difference unless she does.
- Do have a job.
This is the short list. The long list is long.
I have been inundated by messages from guys who are quite a bit younger then me in the last few months. We're talking 8 - 11 years younger. ( I'm only 32! ). Apparently, I am at the age where I am considered an " older women " for that age category ( 21 - 25 ).
I'm not completely sure how I feel about that.
Part of me is intrigued by the idea but the other part of me is quite sure that I would have nothing in common with any of them. I mean, they don't remember watching the Transformers on television or dancing to the Smashing Pumpkins at a high school dance. What could we possibly even talk about?
I guess we could just not talk.... * wink wink *
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